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ed L 
09/18/07

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Hello everyone,

Life has a way of getting in the way sometimes, and I have to admit that has happened to me, not keeping up with the Guest book or forum. The more I read, the more encouraged I feel right now. Thank you all for your honesty, your in site,your Christian love and your ability to maintain this encouraging web site. Truly those of us with SSA need all the support we can get as servants of Jehovah. I look forward to learning more from all of my brothers and sisters who post here.

All the best,
ed L


EDL 
09/16/07

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Hello, everyone

Currently, I am depressed and having panic attacks and trying to clear my head of all SSA matters and connect with others, who are serving Jehovah.

As you all know, most Christians have a hard time understanding our struggles and at times this is very discouraging. For me this is one of those times.

I have tried to get association and encouragement from my kingdom hall, but it is very limited, the elders really don't know what to say, other than keep trying. Coming from an abusive background that is like I am trying to climb a mountain without any gear to do it with.


This site was recommended highly to me from a sister in another kingdom hall... This may sound a little desperate but I am so hoping to find strong encouragement...I want to live with my head up and shoulders back, I want to show Jehovah I am worthy of his love and understanding. But right now I feel Like I am in the sludge pits of hell and that is where I belong.

I apologize for being so long winded and melodramatic, but at this moment that is how I feel. (like exploding).

Hope to hear from someone soon.

Thanks for listening

ed L


M. 
09/02/07

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Dear brothers and sisters,
  
It was a big surprise for me to find a website like this. I also thought that I am the only one dealing with this feelings. It is still a bit scary to me to read about this subject so openly, because I couldn't talk about it openly for years. It is still a big struggle for me, but I won't give up serving Jehovah the way he wants me to. Some times I am very depressed and feel worthless and think that Jehovah won't love me because of these feelings. I hate those wrong feelings, but because of that I sometimes hate myself. I told my parents that I was homosexual when I was 18 (now I am 41), but they only told me that I had to live alone, and that I never must talk about it. So I did, and I was very unhappy. At this moment I've told a few of my friends, and I have to say: the reactions are not that bad. I wish that I had talked about it many years ago. But still you miss someone that really knows what your feeling. That's why I am very happy that I've found this site...

greetings M.


Becky 
08/30/07

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Dear Grace,

     I am the 53 year old mother of an unbaptized lesbian who is not longer active.  I have 20 year old and 14 year old daughters who are still in the Truth and love their sister very much. 
I live in San Diego and would be very happy to correspond and encourage you in an effort to help you remain faithful to Jehovah.  I have read a lot and gone to counseling and recieved training to help my daughter.  I also have other parents who have confided in me about their children's struggles with same sex attraction. 
   I am glad you found this wonderful site and are getting upbuilt from it.

Sincerely,
Becky aka BeckySue


Grace 
08/30/07

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Hey everyone,
I just wanted everyone to know that as many of you may have done i read pretty much everything on this site before making the choice to participate. I think this is my new favorite place. Just by reading your comments and knowing that this place exists has become a great comfort to me. I am 22 and i totally get that this is an everyday battle so I'm glad to have this place as a refuge and as a place to lean on. i am looking forward to speaking to each and every one of you and hopefully meeting some of you. Is anywone from Cali perticularly the SoCal area? As for Phil, from the first posting i read from you i can feel that you have that warmth, kindness and understanding that we are all so desperately looking for and its well balanced with spiritual insight that we need to keep up the good fight. Thank you my words cannot express my gratitude.
     your friend sister and fellow soldier, Grace


tm 
08/29/07

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Hi I'm - tm,
   
                  For starters I just like to say, that I believe everyone should have some sort of a support system, especially through trying times.  This year has been an extremely hard, coping..  never thought a site like this existed where an interchange of encouragement is an almost guaranteed.  I put a book mark to remember this site and I entitled it HOME.. Looking forward to meeting you all and reading each whisper of each heart that falls in the forum.
                                                        
                                                          your brother in the faith
                                                          your friend in the truth
                                                          your (ssa) -adult survivor (like you) -tm
                                                                                                               


R 
08/27/07

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Dear Brother from the USA (USA bro)!
 
I find your comments very encouraging and it strikes a chord in me.
 
What to me is very surprising is the fact that I too was attracted to girls - till guess what?! - the 7th standard!
 
Part of growing up (and feelings of internal rebellion - another common factor) kept me apart. I really do not know what happened within me after that.
 
You make a very good point about displaying the fruitage of God's holy spirit: self-control. Another excellent point is the fact that there are worse trials that Satan brings upon the whole association of brothers. When viewed from that angle, our thorn in the flesh is easily endurable.
 
I would like to write you personally and share and exchange experiences and mutual encouragement. Do write me, Brother!
 
Christian love,
 
 -R


USA bro 
08/26/07

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this is a very interesting site.  i googled searched the topic, just to see if there was a "support group" out there--i was sure there would be several EX-JW sites, full of anger, full of apostate propaganda and full of "secular wisdom" trying to encourage those who may struggle with these tendencies to go ahead and act on them.  i figured all sites would encourage individuals to compromise their virtues.  i was very glad to see a place that acknowledges this WIDE problem, but also offers support and encouragement to NOT ACT ON THE DESIRES.

secular wisdom and progressive politics that are forced upon us in an increasingly "sodom and gomorrah-like" system can easily brainwash and persuade some of us to abandon our principles and ignore God's commandments.  i disagree with the words "homophobic," "bigot," and "closed-minded."  you hear these words in reference to the bible and religion constantly.  however, the commandments from our creator are NOT bigotry.  they are NOT hate speech.  there is NOTHING wrong with calling homosexual fornication a sin--it IS!  it's a gross sin.  but for those of us who constantly struggle with these tendencies, the bombardment of liberal, "tolerant" thinking daily promoted in the media (and even our ELEMENTARY school systems!!!) can easily cause us to take personal offense to the bible's counsel...and to eventually make excuses to act on these wrong desires. 

at times, i've worried that the scripture about committing adultery in your heart (in reference to coveting another person's spouse) is inescapable for someone with gay tendencies--adultery is the sin in the context of that scripture.  but for homosexuality, you're committing that in your heart anytime you fantasize about a member of the same sex!!!  i used to think that as long as i had an attraction to someone (which is nearly a constant struggle), i was committing homosexuality in my heart!  i felt unforgiveable.  and i've never been able to admit this to anyone face to face (although, by now, i'm sure there is a widely accepted rumor that i've always been in the "closet" because i'm still single).  however, in my personal study, i realized that, as long as we prayerfully ask Jehovah for help, understand that this IS a SINFUL trait due to our own imperfection and CANNOT be justified by any stretch of liberal thinking, we can be assured that Jehovah (who can read our hearts) will take into account that we KNOW it's wrong and he observes us when we REFUSE to act on it.
 
we read many experiences of brothers and sisters under intense persecution, abuse, poverty, etc.  this is OUR trial and tribulation, and, to be honest, i think it's relatively easy compared to some of the other horrible things our faithful brothers have endured!!!  if celebacy and a lifetime of abstinence is really the ONLY option for some of us, that's really not too bad compared to severe persecution! Jesus never gave in to sexual desires while on earth.  i'd take this trial any day of the week--i've been in the truth my whole life and began struggling with these desires during my 7th grade year--but have never lost the battle with them.  the longer i endure, the easier it becomes.  as for the occasional jokes and rumors (sadly, even coming from gossipers in the congregation), i've just learned to endure and apply the fruitage of the spirit--long-suffering.  we'll make it out of this!  i look forward to being attracted to beautiful, available sisters in the new order!!!
 
question:  i've been a pioneer and an MS.  i have also gone to college and studied psychology.  worldly wisdom no longer delves into "causes" of  homosexuality--it's not "politically correct."  as of the 1974 revision of the DSM, they no longer classify it as a mental or behavioral disorder and therefore the idea of a "cure" is a taboo subject!  but i'm interested in some of your opinions and experiences.  as i stated above, i noticed the feelings in 7th grade.  tried to fight them, became very depressed and scared--but eventually just accepted the fact that boys in my class or at the k-hall suited my liking more than girls did.  up until 7th grade, i was 100% straight!  i loved girls, even in 6th grade!  don't know how it happened!  i had a very loving, stable, spiritual environment (elder/pioneer parents).  can it be "blamed" on genetics?  or maybe my choice to give in was a form of internal rebellion---i don't know!  if you asked worldly gays, or modern day shrinks, they'll AVOID THE ISSUE and tell you to just accept your feelings!  but, i'd like to take a consenus among people in our unique situation--JW's who struggle with these feelings:  in your opinion, what CAUSES THIS???  personal experiences/opinions welcome.


Daniel 
08/25/07

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I'm really glad I found this website! I was baptized in January of this year at the age of 19 and I'm glad to be in the truth.
But, I am homosexual. I've tried to push it into the background, hoping that it will go away. But it was like trying to ignore the elephant in the room. I'm just tired of having it all bottled up with no one to talk to about it. So that's why I'm glad I found this site so that I can relate with other experiences of those who are going through the same thing as me.


Phil 
08/23/07

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Julia, thank you for those interesting and well-expressed thoughts.

It's possible that occasionally an Elder has given ill-considered advice to marry, to one who is homosexually oriented.  But that is far from the norm. Christ uses humans to run his congregation on Earth, and does not send angels to continually dispense advice. So it follows that sometimes one with oversight in the congregation may make an ill-advised comment or recommendation.  But oftentimes elders will look further into a matter and modify an opinion.

It is not wrong for two Christians to marry if they are scripturally free to do so.  But certainly it would seem a poor basis for a relationship if one deliberately conceals from the other that they feel attraction only for their own sex.  The editorial position of this site, such as it is, is that there must be honesty beforehand.  Even when there is, it is possible for romantic attraction on the part of one person to blind him or her to practical problems and make him or her very persuasive in getting to other to consent to marry.  But for a person who is homosexually oriented to deliberately conceal this from a prospective marriage mate and to proceed to marry is, in the editorial opinion of this site, at best misguided and at worst wicked.

A splendid article in a recent issue of The Watchtower contained some very sensible advice regarding the foolishnesss of expecting too much out of marriage, of pinning too-high hopes upon it, even for two entirely heterosexually oriented persons.  We all know very well that many marriages fail, for reasons quite other than the sexual orientation of the partners.

It is indeed truly a blessing when two well-matched persons become one; "soulmates" as it were, enjoying the myriad felicities of mental, spiritual and physical human contact and bonding that flow between the parties to a succesful marriage.  But homosexually-oriented persons are not alone among Christians in having to do without those particular delights.  There are many faithful Christians who for one reasons or another live single lives which, withal, can be relatively happy and contented lives. (And many married lives, sadly, are not).

Your point about the friendship and sharing aspects of marriage is interesting - taken to its conclusion, you would appear to argue that the sexuality of the parties doesn't matter!

"Marriages of convenience" and in certain cultures, arranged marriages, are well-known phenomena.  It was well enough understood in times past (in the UK anyway) that two persons might decide to marry for practical reasons rather than for romantic attraction.  And in some countries arranged marriages are established practice and can work well.  But the expection, I think, in most western nations today, is that marriage has a basis in romantic and/or sexual attraction.  Partners have surely some expectation - and the right to it - that their spouse feels some physical attraction for them.  How upsetting it would be to discover that this is not so, and can never be so.

Persons may have believed that marriage will alter a person's sexual orientation and some may have entered into marriage on that basis.  Such evidence as there is strongly suggests that this never happens.


Julia 
08/23/07

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I have been reading this site with tremendous interest as this is a problem I have never thought of, but upon consideration it is obvious that many people are in very real pain.  My prayers go out to all of those who feel trapped in such a situation.

I need to give my opinion as a straight married female.  I am appalled that elders would give the advice to marry in order to sublimate these desires.  I suppose if one were truly bisexual and felt a real attraction to the opposite sex partner it could work, but if one were truly gay and married an unsuspecting sister (or brother) this could cause complete devastation in their lives when the secret comes out (and it surely will eventually.)  If my husband suddenly told me he was gay, always had been, and married me to try to be normal I would be devastated because my whole marriage would have been a lie.  And, if I were to ask if that means he was never sexually attracted to me, and he admitted it was so, that would cause a kind of self-loathing that you had shared such an intimate part of yourself and it was never respected, never appreciated.

This is the worst kind of deceit!  How elders could ever recommend such a course is incomprehensible to me since it is so deceitful and shows so little regard for the precious life of a spiritual sister.  I don't know how a sister could pick up and continue living her life after that!

It seems there are two different forces at work here.  Yes, a marriage is the place for a sexual relationship, but that is not the primary purpose or satisfaction.  Building a life together, knowing each other inside and out, finishing each others' sentences, being vulnerable and yet still accepted; this makes a real relationship.

[paragraph deleted: Ed]

The more troubling problem is the need for a truly intimate relationship.  Everyone needs this; we are social creatures and feel the need for human companionship, especially with one whom we have pledged to spend the rest of our lives.  One who loves us whether we wear makeup or don't even get out of our pajamas for the day.  One whom we can confide in and cuddle with and commiserate with.  The lack of this part of an intimate relationship I feel truly sorry for on behalf of the brothers and sisters on this forum.

My prayers are with you,

Julia


Mac 
08/02/07

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Hi Everyone!
Greetings from New York!
Another new one here! Not new to the truth, but new to this INCREDIBLE website - so lovingly and responsibly monitored by our brother Phil.
In future postings I'm hoping I can pass along to you dear brothers and sisters, some of the encouragement I have recently received from Jehovah by means of the elders and close friends in my congregation.
(I have to say, the response I have received in my case however, is not 'universal', and caution should be exercised when confiding in friends in the congregation.)
Meanwhile, we are so fortunate to have this forum, something our brothers in decades past did not have. Such an important tool in order to provide comfort and encouragement on such a delicate subject for those desparately trying to reconcile their feelings with serving Jehovah wholesouled.
With the discovery of this website, one of my favourite scriptures now
rings especially true - more than ever!
1Peter 5:8-10
"Keep your senses, be watchful. Your adversary, the Devil, walks about like a roaring lion, seeking to devour someone.  But take your stand against him, solid in the faith, knowing that THE SAME THINGS IN THE WAY OF SUFFERINGS ARE BEING ACCOMPLISHED IN THE ENTIRE ASSOCIATION OF YOUR BROTHERS IN THE WORLD. But, after you have suffered a little while, the God of all undeserved kindness, who called you to his everlasting glory in union with Christ, will himself finish your training, he will make you firm, HE WILL MAKE YOU STRONG


Joe 
07/30/07

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I told Phil that I simply stumbled upon this site,  but that is not entirely true.  I was searching the web for--what, exactly? The quintessential human desire to see my life experience shared and validated by others, perhaps.  In any case, I wound up on a gay, exJW site, a place I had never ventured before.  I skipped the apostate babel and checked out the life experiences, hoping for some glimpse of commonality, if not recognition. They are so NOT me.  I could relate to very little of their whiny, bitter and often contradictory diatribes. 
I am grateful to them, though, for there was a link to this site which, as I already told Phil, was like coming upon a group of old and dear friends.  For the first time in my life, I feel like I am reading the words of people who not only share my precious faith but also, in a refreshingly honest manner, truly understand and empathize with my particular struggle to maintain such faith.  And for that gift I am truly grateful to you all for sharing your experiences in an effort to help us maintain our confidence firm to the end.
Sorry, I don't mean to sound so melodramatic; but I don't spend much time on the web, and this experience is kind of heady for me.  I think I had become kind of resigned to dealing with this particular "thorn in the flesh" on my own.  Worse, I began to feel that perhaps being a JW and being gay were mutually exclusive.  Your experiences and the encouragement contained here have given me a fresh outlook on my niche in Jah's organization.  Thankyou again.  Hang in there everybody.  It's a beautiful night here in the Pacific Northwest.  Agape,
Joe


A brother (2) 
07/22/07

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Hi Davey,

Just to say that whilst I have had my convention (and live in London), I may be at Twickenham next weekend. Email me if you want to contact and possibly meet.

Even if I don't go, I'm still in London!


Davey 
07/21/07

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Greetings to everyone here!  Hope you are all well.  Hope you are all enduring despite our hard fight for the faith.

I want to let everyone know that I will be in London for the convention at Twickenham between 24 - 26 July 2007 and if anyone of you plan to be there, please let me know as it would be great to meet other fellow brothers and sisters dealing with our common thing that we are dealing with.

I hope you all enjoy this year's "Follow the Christ" conventions and may you all have peace and love and joy despite our many tribulations we have to deal with in this world.

Love to you all.

Davey


A brother 
07/21/07

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Hey Rusell, I'm glad you feel less alone with your challenge.  It's one day at a time keeping a firm determined view of the horizon.  There are good things coming but in the meantime we have such a great resource of potential friends in our congregations and around the world to brighten our days...if we choose to patiently cultivate them.  Even though you are in S.A the world is getting smaller and we are getting closer. 


rusell 
07/15/07

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HI EVERYONE,
I HAVE JUST FOUND THIS SITE WITH SURPRISE, AND ALTHOUGH I'M SURE IT IS NOT SANCTIONED BY THE ORGANIZATION, IT MOST CERTAINLY IS ENCOURAGING. I HAVE BEEN DISFELLOWSHIPPED ONCE, REPROVED ONCE, BEEN BACK FOR ABOUT 12 YEARS. IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO STAY IN THE TRUTH, BUT THERE IS NO ALTERNATIVE. IF THE TRUTH IS IN YOU, YOU WILL ALWAYS COME BACK. OFTEN WHEN I WANT TO GIVE UP, I THINK OF HOW LONG IT WILL BE BEFORE I RETURN -SO I'D RATHER JUST STAY, BUT IT IS DIFFICULT WITHOUT SUPPORT - PARTICULARLY IN HOMOPHOBIC SOUTH AFRICA. THE
REWARD FOR THOSE WHO MAKE IT THROUGH THIS SYSTEM ARE SO GREAT, SO IT'S WORTH THE FIGHT. JEHOVAH HAS PROMISED THAT HE WILL SATISFY THE DESIRES OF EVERY LIVING THING IN THE NEW SYSTEM - SO WE JUST HAVE TO GET THERE.
KEEP HANGING IN. 
AGAPE FROM SA.


theresa 
07/15/07

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Hello Everyone,


It's been a while. I need the encouragement to stay positive. And know there is light at the end of the tunnel.   Reading all of your posts helps me to know I am not alone in  carrying this particular thorn



Night 
07/11/07

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Comments are as follows:  Howdy all!  ;-)  sheesh, i haven't been to this site in awhile. thought i'd check out what's been going on.  Hope all are doing well and finding the support that they are seeking.  I'm not sure what else to say, so..... i'll just leave it at this and end it with: Good Night all!


Phil 
07/01/07

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Mark, it is good that you don't waste time searching for other sites such as this, as currently there is no other site such as this.

I hope you don't feel that this is a dangerous place.

God is pleased when any person dedicated to him lives up to his or her dedication; of that there can be no doubt. And that includes you of course.

Tu explique que tu parle francais. Permet-moi de dire, avec douceur, que tu n'écris pas courrament la langue.... (It's OK, I don't either).

I shudder a little to imagine what "sharfe a Duvel" might be.....




Mark 
07/01/07

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Hello everyone,

I don't often search for sites such as this any more as there are such dangerous places out there!!  However, it is lovely to see so many of you serving our father Jehovah with all your strength while keeping true to your dedication.  Well done.

Some of you here may already have chatted to me - so nice to see you again!  Please feel free to keep in touch.

For others - nice to meet ya!

A note to George from Flanders...  Hello!  I am often in Belgium (every week) so perhaps we can sharfe a Duvel some time??!  My office is in Brussels but I also go to Antwerp etc on occasions.  Where are you?

À mon ami de francophne, je parle français et serais enchanté vous parler ici ! Subsistance forte mon frère.

Take care everyone...  I'm back to sniffling through the Diana concert now with me surrouind sound on...??!!  Some things never change!!

Mark xx


Matty 
06/30/07

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I stumbled across this site by accident. And I am very happy I did. I have found it very encouraging to know that I am not alone. This is something that I must struggle with everyday. Sadly I gave into these fleshly desires 2 years ago with my best friend. I was disfellowshipped for 9 months, but through the help of my family and the congregation elders I am happy to say that I am back serving Jehovah. Thank you for providing an outlet like this.


rob 
06/29/07

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Salut Cyril

Tu n'est pas le seul Temoigne qui a trouvé cette situation trés difficile.
Je suis anglais mais je comprend francais si tu pardon mes erreurs.

Rob


Phil 
06/29/07

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Salut Cyril,

Tu n'es pas le seul francophone ici, je t'assure!


cyril 
06/29/07

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bonjour a tous !

je suis tres heureux d avoir decouver ce site !!
malheureusement il semble destiné aux freres et soeures anglophone , et mon anglais et tres mauvais !
j espere ne pas etre le seul francophone ici et pouvoir decouvrir des temoignages de freres et soeures que je puisse lire dans ma langue

amicalement

cyril


Phil 
06/24/07

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I feel a bit frustrated to note that banner adverts have now appeared at the top of the first four Guestbooks. 

They previously only appeared in the fifth Guestbook, which is why it was changed to another hosting service immediately (well, within 25 hours).

You may find that some of the advertised products or services are unsuitable.  I have no control over what appears.

Please be assured that I am actively considering the best step to take, in respect of the older Guestbooks, and in the meantime, I apologise for bothersome adverts for dating services etc.


Phil 
06/22/07

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Readers may note the change in name of the Guestbook, to bring it into line with the website, which changed in January 2007.

I feel happier with the changed name.  There was a rationale behind the former name, and there was some discussion about it, which you can read 'way back at the beginning of the first Guestbook, in 2003.


lagrand George 
06/13/07

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hi my sweet brothers and sisthers , i am a Flemmisch brother trying to find others in the same situation, glad i find it ,hope i can realy chat or share feelings and struggles with you ,frustrations sometime ,in our difficult path up to the new system ,we hope to get in . Agapè Love to you all. xxx
George from Belgium


Phil 
05/31/07

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Thank you to all those who have signed the Guestbook recently.  It is hoped that the www.witnesses.plus.com website may prove to be a source of encouragement.


robert 
05/14/07

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This forum seems like a great outlet for Christians like us to feel upbuilt rather than discouraged and torn down.
I've been searching for such a venue for a really long time.
Thank you!!!!


Race 
04/24/07

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Hello brothers and sisters.  Isn't it delicious, knowing we are not alone and that Phil and others like him care enough to give us this forum in a right and organized fashion.  Speaking of fashion, is green the new black, cause if so, I'm already styling, cool and refreshing. Anywho, chio4now, je tem, je te door, aufvadersayin, aribaderche, later, hastalabithta, love you man,  Race


Ewan 
04/13/07

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Hi everybody,

it was very encouraging to find this site and to see brothers fighting with our thorn in flesh. It's good even to know that these brothers and sisters exist and you I feel not alone anymore.

I'm 26 and my mum in the truth only. I started to study Bible with Jehovah's Witnesses since I was 12 and now I'm trying to do my best to glorify Jehovah's name in my cong where I live. I'm MS and also sign language translator in my congregation. I'd be very happy to hear from brothers and sisters their experiences and progress and maybe their struggles they have passed through being in the truth for all this time.

Wish you all the best.

Ewan.


Phil 
04/12/07

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Hello folks,

Just a quick reminder - it's not been stated for a while - that email addresses are not shown in the Guestbooks, for a variety of reasons.

Thank you.


rob 
04/12/07

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Hi Mickey

welcome, yes there are a few of us in the uk!

et aussi a bienvenue a notre frere Fred. malheursement Je ne habite pas a France, mais  a Angletere. Mais Je comprende francais si tu vu a m'ecrire?

I'm Sorry to leave anyone out - so here's a Big HELLO


 


Mickey 
04/11/07

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Hi All

Waiting to join the site. Would like to hear from any brothers and sisters around the globe. Feel free to email me.

Love

Mickey x    


Mickey 
04/10/07

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Cant believe there is a site like this Wow!

Feel free to email me if you want, anyone.  I am in the UK


Paris Alex 
03/27/07

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thank you Beckie.
I also noticed when reading this daily text that it could no doubt apply to us. It's nice that others realize that too and are trying to convey a few words of encouragement for all of us. Thanks alot.
And to all the new ones appearing here, welcome and warm greetings 


Becky 
03/26/07

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The Text:

Be married . . . only in the Lord.—1 Cor. 7:39.

"In some lands, there is strong social pressure to
marry. Yet, opportunities to meet a potential mate
among fellow believers may be few. (Prov. 13:12)
Jehovah “is very tender in affection” for his
servants. (Jas. 5:11) He knows that the challenges
facing Christians who are involuntarily single are at
times disheartening, and he treasures their loyalty.
How can others encourage them? We should regularly
commend them for their obedience and self-sacrificing
spirit. (Judg. 11:39, 40) We can also include them in
arrangements for upbuilding association. Have you done
that recently? Moreover, we can pray for them, asking
Jehovah to help them keep their spiritual balance and
find joy in serving him. By our sincere interest, may
we show that we appreciate these loyal ones as Jehovah
does.—Ps. 37:28. w 3/1/06 7, 10a"
While I know the majority of you struggle with same sex attraction, Jehovah understands your situation and treasures you for your loyalty.  Your legitimate needs for intimacy will be fulfilled.  I am writing to commend all of you for your obedience and essentially self sacrificing spirit.  I, too, pray you find joy in serving him.  I appreciate your endurance. 
Sincerely,
Becky


Marc 
03/25/07

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Hello to all the brothers and sisters.
For a long time I have been visiting this Website and finally I have  decided to expose here that I also have homosexual inclinations that create a great conflict in my relation with God.
We are many more of those than we appear.
I fell in love with a ministerial servant of my congregation, that got to become an obsession in my life. When I got to realize that just went to the meetings to see his face, his glance, then I thought that it had to do something as far as it. I changed of congregation and now I am better, although I return again to be enamored. Nobody knows my true inclinations. Most of my friends in the truth has married and I have remained single. Sometimes it is very difficult to face the life for me. In any case, thanks to make of this place a point of contact for all those that we underwent this problem. Greetings from Spain. Jehovah bless you.


Andrew 
03/25/07

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Some vary encouraging posts recently, as always!

It's spring here!

Andrew


Fred 
03/24/07

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Y a-t-il des frères homos français vivant en France ? Ou alors ils se cachent tout ?


Jack 
03/21/07

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Andres,
I read your entry from March 1st.  I tried to write to you at the Yahoo ID, but my email was returned to me as undeliverable.  Sorry.
Jack


IslandBrother 
03/16/07

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Hello, I must say that this is very difficult for me to talk about. I do not think it is insurmountable but definitely a challenge. I hope the best for all my brothers and sisters who (like me) are dealing with these inclinations of this side of Armageddon.

Remember that Jehovah is our stronghold. He is a God of love and PEACE. Pray for peace with your situation, it is helping me. I am determined to do the right thing and serve Jehovah forever. I might need some support though. Thank You for your help.


lb 
03/11/07

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As always it is encouraging to find so many eduring the fine fight of the faith.  And yet some days it seems that at any given point all of Jehovah's servants are at the end of their ropes!  AND wouldn't Satan just love that. 

 

 Think of some of the faithful servants of old who had to endure -- Moses had great privileges in service to Jehovah and at the end lost out on the great joy of leading God's people into the promised land.  Still, in a song that he later composed he called Jehovah the rock - perfect in his activity.  -Deut 32:3  He kept a positive attitude despite his limitations.  And Jehovah, merciful as he is, allowed him to SEE the promised land.  Then there was Naomi and Ruth.  No doubt at one time life looked pretty good.  They had husbands to support them, a home, food...and in a very short time life changed.  Still, Ruth and Naomi continued on in what life had dealth them, and Jehovah greatly blessed both women. 

 

Life today is FULL of uncertainty, loss, disappointments.  But NO MATTER WHAT our situation if we keep focused on the prize ahead one day at a time, sometimes ONE HOUR at a time, we can succeed like these faithful servants of old.  So hang on to Jehovah.  The time left is reduced. 1Cor 7:29

 


ivan 
03/11/07

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hi brothers, how you doing? it is nice to see that many write how they keep figthing with the feeling of homosexuality, in a way it is helpfull for those who read, but lately nothing has been good enough to give me the strength to go on, it seems that the secret person that reside in me wants to get out no metter what happen, i think i am giving up, but even though, i do love Jehova and the last think i want, is to hurt Him. I really hope to be forgiven for what i am! PS. i really enjoy reading your comments and storys please keep writing them.


O 
03/02/07

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Hi everyone!

 

I´m from ------- City and I'm not a very gifted English speaker, but I will try to do my best.

 

I serve as a ministerial servant, although it has not been easy at all to deal with my inclination. I love Jehovah and his Organization but it has been so difficult to cope with these feelings.  I appreciate that one of our brother had given me this web page, what I have read has inspired me to go on.

 

I hope to meet a lot of friends and brothers.

 

My best wishes


Andres 
03/01/07

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Hello everyone...i am an active JW, a ministerial servant...of course i am in the struggle and would like to talk to others in the same situation, it makes me feel better when i learn others feel the same way i do and stay loyal as i do too...nobody in my congretation knows it but so afraid they might suspect since i am not married yet...andres75ec (yahoo! id)


kevin 
02/19/07

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happy to find this site i have never felt so alone since i started studying the truth, only because i have this secret.....


Becky 
02/17/07

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Hi all, Hope you are doing well. We sure are getting some new changes in the magazines.  I think it makes sens

I've been very busy lately.  I finally gave in to my daughter's request to home-school.  She is going a lot faster than she would in school, but its hard to keep up all that work. 

 

Take care.  Have a good weekend .

 

Agape

Becky


Rufus 
02/12/07

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Hello a,
I was around when Paul wrote "that is what some of you were" thing, so I guess I'd be one of those older ones.
Coping for me has come with accepting who I am and realizing there's not too much we can do about it at this point. In turn, having accepted my parameters, I work within them. There are a lot of things we can do with our health and energies (even we older ones) and it is upon these that I have built my life. You're in a very good position to help many in the congregation; elderly, infirm or young ones. Lacking the commitments of marriage and children of my own, it is much easier to take on assignments like seldom-worked territories in far flung parts of my own country. Some pursue pioneering. MTS is an option. And construction work either home or abroad is easy to work at. Volunteering for assignments at conventions and assemblies has opened up many options. Making it point to entertain others or putting together outings like picnics at the beach or camping weekends or night-skiing ventures are all things that have kept me busy and being a helpful positive member of my congregation. I've been serving as an MS for many years now and this keeps me busy. "Finding your place within Jehovah's Organization" is an important thing to do early in life.

But I sense you more want to know "if the feelings will ever go away...?" Unfortunately (for me anyway) no. But in time, they do diminish as your hormones start to settle down. And as with everything, age and life experience do teach you to handle things better. Earlier in my life, I thought every incident was the end of the world and I'd not be able to handle it. Well, I'm 44 now and I guess I did somehow handle those moments because life goes on. What seemed like such a cataclysmic crisis back then is not such a big deal now. I think I now call all that stuff "drama".
If you stood at the top of a mountain and strapped on a pair of skis, with no experience you'd have every right to feel terrified and rightly so as you picked up speed and trees and rocks start coming at you. But as you learn how to actually manoeuvre those skis, the same experience could actually be fun. I've picked up on travel as a big hobby that works well with 'singleness'. Learn to work your skis and find stuff that works for you.
In all of this, just keep Jehovah first, and you will be fine.

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