12/05/18
Comments: Hi everyone, I’m a 26 year old brother from Australia. For the longest time... since say age 10, I have had an attraction to other males. Only recently have I really come to terms with it.
As a teenager I lost many friends and found it hard to form friendships with other males because of this issue and because I was bullied badly at school by other students who discovered I was gay before I even knew I was myself.
In recent times I have connected with a few other brothers who are gay... some who I’ve known since I was a kid and some who have come out of the world and are now serving Jehovah faithfully despite once being heavily into that worldly lifestyle. It has been a big help to know I’m not the only one. It was actually one of these brothers that directed me to this site. I look forward to being a part of it. 🙂
12/03/18
Comments:
I'm happy I found this resource because this seems to be a subject that's not talked about too much. I was frustrated whenever I read the Young People Ask book because it kept saying that this could be a phase. And its not a phase. I was angry that there wasn't more information. Then I stopped and thought about it and I realized "Do pedophiles have more information like this?" No of course not. We don't tailor anything for each specific type of sexual sin. It all falls under the umbrella of sexual immorality. It's all wrong. Once I accepted this it made sense why there wasn't more information on being a gay witness. The one point I did like from our articles is that "no one has to act on sexual desires. It's not a necessity". Then I read that we should talk to someone else. That wasn't really an option for me at first because my Family is homophobic. I am a witness living in a homophobic country (Muslim country). I had some worldly friends that would accept me for how I am but then I feel like I would bring reproach on Jehovahs name for saying that the way I feel doesn't coincide with what the bible teaches. The same reason why I'm scared to get mental therapy. The psychologist might blame everything on my religion and it could give a bad witness. Anyway. It's led to a lot of depression and suicidal thoughts because it seemed like no matter what I do, I always lose. If I speak up something bad will happen. If I stay queit I'm gonna keep giving myself anxiety. So it was kind of like "darned if I do and darned if I don't". And I'm not a bad looking guy and I'm almost in my mid-twenties and everyone is like "When are you gonna get married?". So I feel the pressure. At my lowest point I came out to one friend via telephone and she was so nice and she said, "You're still you. So what if you like men?". That was the nicest thing I had ever heard. This was a few months ago. I think now it's time to tell my Mom, since she is also a witness. My father is not in the truth. I'm scared I'm gonna break her heart. I don't live near them since I've moved away. I've written a 25 page letter (basically a book) with how I've felt and everything that I have been thinking about since I was a child. I'm just looking for the courage to mail it off. I'm not good with words and I don't express myself ever. This is the first time so it's a bit scary and I figured that I should say everything at once. In the last few months I've been distancing myself from everyone just incase I get backlash from people. Because I know everyone is going to look at me differently and once you say something like this, you can't go back. It sticks with your reputation forever. Anyway. It's my problem to deal with. Just happy to see I'm not the only one. I found a great scripture on this website that mentions that Jehovah is always with us even if our mothers and fathers abandon us. It's the only thought that keeps me going. -Mirko
11/17/18
Comments: Just wish to welcome the friends who recently succeeded in getting access to this resource !
Your intention was to take a step further in clinging to the truth and this is already like a reward isn't it ?
This month we tell people everywhere that Jehovah is the God of all comfort. Isn't this like a clear evidence ?
11/17/18
Comments: I am very happy and optimistic to have found this site. I pray it will be a help to my wife and I and our child. To be able to speak with others who have the same feelings and feel the isolation of the truth at times but the beauty of our brotherhood is a blessing. May Jehovah bless all of you.
11/16/18
Comments: Hello Brothers and Sisters! I should start off by saying, this is truly amazing!
I am still in shock that this website is a thing, I have been looking for something like this for the longest time and I have finally found it!
I can relate to everyone here who is a “gay” witness. To cut a long story short, I’ve had these feelings since I was 7 (i’m 19 now). I got baptised and eventually I told my parents I have these feelings (I knew that I was gay but I didn’t want to accept it fully).
They thought it was as easy as “just tell yourself you’re not”. When I was 16 I sat down and told them everything and they were shocked but more upset. They tried to console me but really and truly didn’t understand the true depths of it (they still think its a choice).
I tend not to form deep friendships with people because I’m paranoid that they’ll get too comfortable and they’ll hurt me with the question “Are you gay ? You’re so feminine”. I have these dips where everything is going well then suddenly I just cant cope and I lose focus and I feel extremely lonely due to the fact I will probably never be able to “be myself” without having to worry what others are thinking. However, I’m still hanging in there remaining loyal to Jehovah because if we think about it where are we really going to get comfort from other than Jehovah?
Lets all try our best to keep a healthy spiritual routine because thats the only thing we have, our relationship with Jehovah. I can’t wait to get to know more people going through this problem. Thanks again for the platform phil it’s much appreciated.
11/04/18
Comments: Response to Matthew Matthew, your story is extremely encouraging. I had almost the same experience, I left 20yrs ago by my relationship was not nearly that long and it almost killed me so I can't imagine 18yrs. I will say it would have been easier if he was studying. But That took so much faith, and I'm glad that even when you stumbled you got back up.I hope you join the group. I would be great to converse with you.
10/30/18
Comments: Bonjour à tous, Ravi d'avoir trouvé ce site plein d'encouragements quand on à pas trop le moral. Le sentiment de solitude peut être extrêmement démoralisant dans notre lutte, pouvoir échanger sans se sentir jugé est particulièrement réconfortant. Merci pour vos beaux exemples !!
10/03/18
Comments: Response to ´´Too afraid to put my name ´ Thank you for responding. I understand what you are saying. The pain to let go of someone we love can be excruciating...it was for me so I imagine how it must be for you after all those years. One thing Im sure : we are not alone. You will get lots of support here. Im here for you. We must keep fighting, shoulders to shoulders, like soldiers. Much love sister, Jen
10/01/18
Comments: Ce forum est une énorme aide et une grande source d’encouragement afin de continuer à lutter et rester fidèle à Jéhovah. On espère voir plus de francophones rejoindre le groupe et partager leur(s) histoire(s) ou tout simplement aider quelqu’un dans le besoin 🙂
| Too afraid to put my name | | 09/30/18
Comments: Thank you Jen for your kind words. I read through your posts as well and having mutual feelings for another sister can’t be easy for the both of you. I suppose my only saving grace is that I married a wordly woman. I still miss her terribly and think about how kind she was to me and my kids.
I occasionally get an email from her saying I miss you or you’re still it for me and I have to ignore it. She is blocked on my phone. Not because we have a bad relationship or anything but just because I don’t want to fall into temptation. I was married for close to 10 years and never felt the love in those years from my husband that I felt from my wife. I wonder all the time what is wrong with me. Maybe what is wrong with him. What was wrong with us together. I miss her cooking and drawing me a bath. Our friendship. I miss someone taking care of the kids on the same level that I did.
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that the sexual piece isn’t missed as well too but I mostly just miss my friend. I long for the day that Jehovah takes this away from me. This thorn in my flesh. It is so comforting to know that there are other sisters on here as well. Makes me fell less alienated.
Thank you for saying something Jen. The one response brought me to tears. Walking away from my wife and my marriage and clinging to Jehovah has been the hardest fight of my life. Being reinstated with no-one knowing might be even harder. My divorce was final in January of this year and I literally walk around like a chunk of my life never happened. At some point I’m afraid I’m going to break.
09/28/18
Comments: Hello! I am 17 and I am glad to find a forum where I could vent my thoughts and not be judged 🙂 As college applications and my birthday is right around the corner, I could feel my life falling apart and my brain blended into a smoothie of agony.
09/26/18
Comments: Comment to “too afraid to put my name”: Hi fellow sister, Im Jen and your message really touched me....it takes incredible strength to do what you did.....please dont be afraid to post on the forum, even anonymous, Im sure we could encourage each other....not may women here. I got 2 kids also 😉
09/25/18
Comments: Hello Dear brothers & Sisters, 1 peter 5:9 Stay firm in the faith knowing that the same kind of suffering are being experienced by the entire association of brothers. I Feel So blessed to have found this site for encouragement, and to know we are all struggling with the same issues. I was raised in a jw family and fell way from the truth 20 yrs ago. I then met my partner and have been in a faithful monogamous relationship for 18yrs we have a beautiful son together who we love and cherish.
My mum & dad both got cancer together a few yrs ago they were the centre of my life! My mum passed away and the grief was unbearable! I Remember holding her hand when she passed away and thinking of all my teaching I was taught as a child that death was not the end.
I was offered a study with a brother & sister at my mother's funeral. Me and my partner at this time accepted this invitation. It’s been a few yrs now and the love I felt for Jehovah that he never forgot about me,moved me to respect his standards.
Me and my partner separated and moved into different houses. We share our son equally and I became a unbaptised publisher! It was the hardest decision in my life to leave the person you love and the family we built together. The pain the loneliness and vulnerability has sometimes been overwhelming. I have experienced highs and lows.
My spiritual brother and sister who have been on this journey with me have been a blessing and a extension of Jehovah's love for me. Jehovah has given me the strength to match all my trials. But the struggle never leaves!
In family worship me and my son built a model of the house we want to live in the paradise! Everyday we look at it and he gets so excited about living in a beautiful world surrounded by all the animals! He’s looking forward to having a pet tiger and swinging in the trees with the monkeys!
The biggest pain I felt was when My ex partner put his study on hold because the pressure was too intense. Recently I fell into sin with him again and had to step down as a publisher to respect Jehovah. The brothers didn’t want me to step down but the guilt was too much for me to bear. Jehovah has seen my heartache and many tears and the struggle I face trying to do the right thing. So I begged Jehovah to help me regain my strength! I’ve picked up my torture stake! And continued my study; I’m now back at the meetings with my son! Answering up! and he is forming a relationship with Jehovah now and that is making my heart rejoice!
I’ve got my goal with Jehovah to become an unbaptised publisher again! And lead me to my baptism. What I have learned by this experience is that Jehovah never lets go of us ever. He is so loyal so we must remain loyal to him. We are all so close now to the end of this system and Satan wants to drag us down and play on our weaknesses and imperfections. But if we continue with Jehovah he will match all our trials, and give us the power Beyond what is normal.
The best news also I received is that my ex-partner has started talking with the sisters he was studying with and I’m praying everyday that he will get back to his study again and have a relationship with Jehovah. We are all in this together and it’s so encouraging to know we face the same struggles. Matthew 19:29 has helped me so much -"And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or lands for the sake of my name will receive a hundred times as much and will inherit everlasting life".
Love to you all xxxxx stay loyal.
09/24/18
Comments: Hi everyone! So thankful to have found that website! Here's my story: I’m a baptized brother serving in a congregation in Switzerland. I’m really thankful for being part of Jehovah’s organization and knowing Him is the best thing in my life. Although, I’ve been trying to understand my sexual orientation throughout my teenage years and also my young adult years. I’m 23 and I used to serve as a servant. After a bad period of my life, I went through a judicial commitee and I lost all my privileges. Since then, I’ve been fighting against my desires and trying to keep a good spiritual routine. It’s sometimes difficult to cope as everyone around me expects me to find someone and get married. Also my elders are very nice and sweet but I feel like they don’t really know how to deal with my situation. I’ve been finding a lot of encouragement through my Bible reading and also finding a lot of strength through prayer. It’s really hard to find out whether I’m gay or bi. Anyways I'm very happy to see that I'm not alone
09/23/18
Comments: Hi Bro and Sis,
In the first place I am so happy that I have find this website. I went through the comments and was feeling already so much better. I taught I was completely alone with this issue and mostly a search on the internet give you more negative feedback from exJW.
I am begin the 30th and was more than 10 year inactive, however never got disfellowship, even my lifestyle was not in line with Jehovah's standarts. Few months ago I broke up with my boyfriend and went back to the meetings. The feeling to be alone can be so unbearable, hope therefore to fine some encouragement in this group.
May everybody has Jehovah's blessing and support in or struggle.
S. from Germany
09/23/18
Comments: Hello everyone! I hope I found the right place for insight and encouragment. I will do my part in giving encouragment as well! I am currently studinying with a brother, and have known Jehovah for most of my life. (I am 28) I am gay but have not acted on it for years. I have studied before and got discoruraged a few times.. but im not going to let satan win. My relationship with Jehovah has grown so much and brothers and sisters in my kingdom hall have been so kind... but I never have encountered another brother or sister who was gay and understands me in that regard. I feel my battle is very lonely and now that I am finally putting Jehovah first in my life I dont want to stumble or be discouraged. Your stories are all very inspiring and Just reading some of these entries gives me some strength in knowing I am not alone. 🙂
09/21/18
Comments: I know exactly how you feel! I was disfellowshipped when I got married to my wife. I have two kids from a prior marriage to a man who continued to go to meetings with my family. I went to the convention last year 2017 and decided to come back to Jehovah. My wife, who had done not one thing wrong, was devastated. She had actually attended the regional with me, not the one I was assigned to of course because she clearly looks like a lesbian and my congregation would’ve known and even though I was married at the time I never “came out” to the people in my hall. Anyways, back to you. He is going to be hurt but if he loves you he will understand. I had to file for divorce and completely stop talking to my ex wife. I cared for her and after all she was a step mom for my girls. My love for Jehovah is more than my love for her. I also hated myself daily. Treat him with love but also treat him with honesty. Jehovah will take care of the rest. If the site can somehow put us in contact with each other you’re more than welcome to reach out to me directly. I know how hard it is! Hugs!
| Too Afraid to put my name | | 09/21/18
Comments: Hi Brothers & Sisters, What a relief to finally come across others who are dealing with the same situation. Long story short...I married a woman and was disfellowshipped and in order to get reinstated I had to end the relationship. She treated me so well and was a great wife but I knew Jehovah did not approve and I couldn’t live with myself. I wish I never entered the relationship because now I constantly feel like that is just one more imperfection on my plate. I feel like the struggle is real, but it’s real worth it. I want Jehovah to take this thorn in my flesh away.
09/18/18
Comments:
Hi,
I've been reading these comments for years but never posted. It was a relief to find it the first time. I thought was going crazy with this issue. Over the years I have been learning to deal with the loneliness and complexity of issues it brings. I have been in the truth for decades now. Relief will come soon my friends. Stay close to Jehovah.
"For the mountains may be removed and the hills may be shaken, But my loyal love will not be removed from you..." says Jehovah - Isa 54:10
Charles
09/12/18
Comments: Hello dear brothers and sisters.
Let me tell you a bit about myself. I was born in the truth and my close family is JW. You can imagine how difficult it has been to grow up as JW and at the same time having these feelings. Although for many years I used to deny who I am, I eventually learned to accept who I am and to love myself as I am but also to be determined not to give up. This fight is not easy as you already know, but I know that a website like this, besides mainly the help of our loving God and His word, will help me a lot to continue to be faithful to our God. I hope to meet here friends who share my faith in Jehovah and at the same time are determined to be faithful. I know we can succeed in this fight. Thank you.
Elijah
09/07/18
Comments:
Hello brothers and sisters! I was in a state of mind wherein I have questioned almost my worth in the congregation and my personal spiritual standing. I felt so cursed and isolated, that I cannot help but compare why I have this conflict within me. I didn't think there is anyone out there in the organization truly understand my innermost disposition. I feel like a lone reed braving the strong winds. So I am beyond thankful that I found this site and received the administrator's encouraging and uplifting email response. I am glad that I am not after all alone in this struggle. There are brothers and sisters out there too who are braving the inner storms. May we not break. Thank you for being true. Your brother, Niel
08/29/18
Comments:
Dear Brothers & Sisters I’m beyond grateful to have found this site. I’ve been wanting to write and ask for some help. I was born and raised in a very active JW family.
My dad was an elder for a very long time. I became a non baptised publisher when i was 16. I have always known that I have a same-sex attraction since i could remember. Thats what holding me not to get baptised. When i was 25 i decided to move city and be independant, that was quite a wrong decision. I drew myself away from the congregation and started to think that its best for me to be proud of myself and be an openly gay guy between my friends and colleagues. Fast forward a few years, I met a guy in 2012 and we clicked so much. We have been together ever since and we even legalised it a few years afterwards and I came out to my family. It destroyed my dad’s heart and it saddened me to see it. I thought I was happy…until recently i felt something. There’s like a void in my heart, but i still denied myself. Just a few months ago, my dad passed away and it deeply hit me. Since then i started praying to Jehovah and ask him to help me get back to him. I have been to the meetings quite often, read the bible and attend the regional convention “Be Courageous” was the highlight. It really moved me and got me all teary. I cried after coming back home. Now, I know that i needed to leave the life I have now to be able to move forward and get back to Jehovah. I don’t know how i can tell this to my partner who’s done nothing but to love the wrong person. Thank you so much for any of your help Your brother
07/22/18
Comments: Hi brothers and sisters I came across this site and this is the best thing I've read in a long time . So much relief to know others are struggling like me . I'm married, but had feelings for another woman (sister who felt the same way). I feel so alone so I hope reading your messages will help me to not give up . And maybe I could help others also by sharing my story . Best regards
07/02/18
Comments: Hello brothers and sisters. I think what a blessing is to have this site up. We can encourage each other to keep faithful to our loving God no matter what. Don't forget to keep reading Bible every day because that is very important.
May Jehovah bless you all dear brothers and sisters.
06/18/18
Comments: Hi MS Thanks for your encouraging message. It's nice to hear that you are happily serving the Happy God. It must make Him even happier. It is so important to stay close to our brothers and sisters in congregation activities, congratulations on doing that. I know with all that it does get lonely at times , especially knowing that our struggle is not very well accepted or understood by some of our fellow brothers and sisters. This is a nice place to come when we feel that way. May Jehovah bless your efforts to continue in his service.
06/18/18
Comments: Hello Everybody.
This is a very helpful site. I always thought I was alone. Searching online you only find people talking bad about Jehovah's witnesses. I serve in a congregation and I am very happy. Sometimes I feel very lonely especially now that I live alone. Be sure that every night I pray for all of you, so you can keep serving Jehovah faithfully. Good day.
06/09/18
Comments:
Hi, my name is Alex*. I have been associated with the Witnesses since I was little. I have always had same sex attraction since as long as I could remember. I got baptized as one of Jehovah's Witnesses on December 2013. It was the best decision of my life but the hardest. Like many others on here it has been an ongoing battle with my mind. During the past five years I wanted to give up entirely with the truth and live my life, but something keeps stopping me. The love that I have for Jehovah is something I cannot even describe. Since as long as I could remember I have always had a connection to Him. I remember one time when I was rebellious and wanted to pursue my sexual desire I did not feel happy; I felt alone and empty.
Even in the truth I feel alone. I have been severely discouraged in my congregation since I have been baptized not encourage by those taking the lead in my congregation. This past year was the hardest of my life. I had to battle or have tribulations with my divided family, work, and sad to say in Jehovah's organization and then dealing with my MIND. I am so broken that I cried so much I can’t even cry anymore. I wanted to kill myself just to let go of the pain, but I can’t because that would mess up my hope for the future. In the New World if I prove faithful to the end. Jehovah and his Son would take care of me. Brothers and Sisters, as I know that you already know this, but I like to ponder on the scripture of 1 Tim. 1:7-10 stating that the bible is not made for a righteous man but those who are sinners. Which in essence we ALL are. Sin to me is like medication. Medication effects everybody differently. Some people have constipation, dry mouth, and etc. So as with sin some have to battle with haughtiness, homosexuality, stealing, Bestiality, Rape, greediness, idol worship and etc.- 1 Cor. 6:9-11 Even before I was aware of this web site I have always been praying to Jehovah for those who are going through what I am going through still as always YOU are in my prayers. We are not alone I know it, or it would not surprise that some publishers, pioneers, ministerial servants, elders, bethelities, circuit overseers, branch members and possible Governingbody members are like us. Wow I can’t imagine what Jehovah’s sees if only we know it would blow our minds! LOL! But that where FAITH comes in to trust in Jehovah no matter what! My best advice is to literally take one day at a time and get as deep into the scriptures as you possibly can and have a close friend to talk too. I think about it now that if I would of never did diligent study I would have been left the truth!!!!!! SERIOULY!!! And through those tribulation I know Jehovah on a whole level now. Our personal experience with Jehovah are priceless. Love Your Brother, Alex* *name is change to keep my privacy
06/07/18
Comments: Hi dear sisters and brothers, After reading some of the comments on the guestbook it made me feel less alone. It’s so hard to deal with this when there’s no one in the organization who I feel, can truly understand. When mostly everyone is disgusted. I hope to find some comfort knowing that I’m not the only one struggling with this, and at the same time trying really hard to do what is right in Jehovah’s eyes.
05/30/18
Comments: Hi, I’m so glad to find this forum. I’m attracted to other women and it’s so hard seeing girls my age at assemblies and conventions and knowing it’s wrong to feel this way about them. I’m baptized and I want to progress towards pioneering but I don’t feel like I can. I’d like to have the password to the forum since it’s pretty lonely not being able to talk to anyone about my sexual orientation.
05/11/18
Comments: Hi guys, I was using the old password and had not logged into it in a while. And now it's changed. Can someone please send it too me? I was starting to read and was glad we had something, I thought I was completely alone and talking to people in the Cong was difficult.
04/22/18
Comments: In a world that is constantly telling you to accept who you are, that being gay is not wrong, I find it so difficult to cope. I love Jehovah immensely, but I always feel like this is dragging me down. Thankfully, knowing I’m not alone, both now, and in Bible times, is a comfort. Many brothers and sisters have overcome these feelings, ‘that is what they were’. I hope that to be me one day, to be able to leave behind these desires. If not in this system, then in the next. Keep fighting the good fight my dear brothers and sisters.
04/20/18
Comments: Hi. Would love to join. If that's possible.
04/16/18
Comments: Hi everyone my name is Yxxxx. I’m glad I bumped into this site. Been struggling with being gay at the age of 8. I’m glad that I’m not the only one struggling.
04/11/18
Comments: Hello,
I’m so happy I have found this site! Knowing that I’m not alone in Jehovah's organization is incredible, a blessing. Came out to my parents a few years ago, the hardest thing ever, but Jehovah led the way and I must say it was the greatest thing I ever did. We have gotten a lot closer and we bond more. They were extremely supportive and respectful of me in knowing this is the way I was born and there’s no way of changing it until paradise. I feel like my relationship with Jehovah has gotten so much better since then.
I used to hate myself so much for being what I am, to the point that I didn’t want to live anymore, didn’t want to shame my parents, and most of all didn’t want to shame Jehovah. After doing some personal studying while I was in my most depressed stage, I started to look up articles in JW.org about homosexuality. It opened my eyes to what I’ve always known but for some reason kept slipping by me: Jehovah doesn’t hate homosexuals, he hates adultery, 2 people not married having sex, sex should only be between a married man and a woman. It hit me so hard! And the article continued on how much Jehovah loves us and that if we’re being celibate for Jehovah, all of our sacrifices will have a huge return in the future. That night I prayed with tears thanking Jehovah for his guidance, and I promised to love myself in every single way with every imperfection, yes including being a gay female JW. It’s just another imperfection and Jehovah is with me every day to help me stay strong!
I know many gay JW brothers and sisters that serve Jehovah full time and are truly living their best life ever! It’s such an encouragement to see it brings tears of happiness to me!
Though I am so positive about this, I admit I get lonely. Not in a sexual appetite type of way but just in a romance type of way. Keep in mind when I mean romantic, I don’t mean sexual, just mean the feeling of being loved type of way. I’ve always wondered what it would be like to have a relationship with someone, not sexual! Just a special type of friendship. Like someone who is my best friend, life partner, someone I truly in love, someone that helps me with my spiritual goals, always there to cheer me up. Just a special someone. As humans, we want to be loved, nothing wrong with that. And yes we receive love by our family and the brothers and sisters from the hall. But we also want to be loved by a special someone. Many people see this as a platonic romantic friendship/relationship, a special bond between two people in a non sexual way. Others see it as an asexual relationship, 2 people have feelings for each other, they just don’t engage in sex or any sexual activities.
Just wanted to know what you guys think about that. And of course I know it’d be hard for some, but for the ones that sexual appetite isn’t really what their craving, could it be a possibility with Jehovah’s guidance and help?
04/05/18
Comments: Guys such a relief to know this website exist. I was always sure I wasn’t the only one going thru the same feelings and pressures, but this just confirmed it. Don’t know if we can say where we’re from but Texas here serving as a MS and RP. Always been “heterosexually challenged” but always wanted support that understood my feelings and pressures. Really would like to reach out to others at least to lend an ear because I’m sure we all need one. We’re all on the same boat so let’s do this together. 😉
03/24/18
Comments:
Thank you, Harrison. And we all of us want you and your partner to gain Jehovah God's approval and blessing too.
R.
03/16/18
Comments: Thank you all for your kind words. May Jehovah bless you all. Harrison.
03/06/18
Comments: Harrison..a few of us have been in your shoes. Please feel free to join us and we can discuss more. You are NOT alone in your problem. Think of the world as the Titanic. Do you want to go down with the ship just because you don’t want to hurt your partner or do you want to listen to God..and leave him to get into the lifeboat and hopefully your example saves him too...
03/01/18
Comments: SL - Glad you found the site! Happy to hear you've endured. Like yourself, all of us in the forum are keeping our integrity to Jehovah despite the "thorn in our flesh". There is great exchange of encouragement. Look forward to getting to know you and hearing from you within.
Harrison - Hang in there man! It's great to read that you feel Jehovah calling you back.
Not knowing all the details, if he has no knowledge of your past association with JW's, then maybe you could approach it in the sense that you spoke with one. Which you kind of technically did here on the forum. You could say it sparked some interest and then see how he responds to it. That will give you an idea of how things may go. If he does know you could say your friend has been asking and in turn has been making you think more about it. See how that goes too.
Either way, any step you take towards coming back to Jehovah is going to be worth the effort. Easy...maybe not, but worth it. Now that you've found this site you see there are others who are faithfully serving despite.
Check in again, would be great to hear how things progress both with you and your friend.
02/28/18
Comments:
Harrison, It certainly seems to be the time for ones who have left off serving Jehovah to be called back to the fold. The last 4 individuals to come into my congregation have all had a background in the truth, and returned, a couple after decades of being away. Now, it’s your turn. Jehovah is calling you to come home. WE on this site are urging you to do the same. R. had some valuable points to help you. In my bible reading this morning I came across this scripture that reminded me of YOUR situation. It was from Mark 10, where the rich man wanted to know what he had to do to gain everlasting life. When Jesus told him to sell his belongings, the man was grieved and left. The disciples then wondered at V26 who CAN be saved and Jesus answered at V27: Who possibly can be saved?” Looking straight at them, Jesus said: “With men it is impossible but not so with God, for all things are possible with God.” What may seem impossible to you, is not with Jehovah. He knows your heart and He wants you back, and so do we. Come home, Harrison.
Just a side note to Don who first posted on 5-27-14. I am once again urging you to come back, if you haven’t already. If I haven’t forgotten you, you can be assured that Jehovah surely hasn’t!
02/25/18
Comments:
For Harrison
Dear Harrison,
How good it is that you found this site of ours. And how good to know that you have directed someone's to God's Word.
Do you access and read the current literature at jw.org? Do you know that there is a brochure titled, Return to Jehovah?
Please read it. It has 5 parts:
PART 1 WHY RETURN TO JEHOVAH?
PARTS 2-4 WHAT ARE SOME CHALLENGES OF RETURNING? PART 5 HOW TO RETURN TO JEHOVAH
And under that last part, the first thing we are encouraged to do is the very thing you have encouraged your friend to to - read God's Word daily.
Just please think of one thing concerning your partner, whose feeling you are afraid you would hurt. What is beneficial for him in the long run? What will help him gain knowledge and then an approved standing before Jehovah God - and therefore everlasting life?
Please return, Harrison.
R.
02/24/18
Comments: I have served Jehovah for many, many years and for all those years I have known that I was somehow different. I have finally accepted that I was born gay but must never disobey Jehovah by practicing homosexuality. I still struggle with these feelings and welcome this forum which hopefully will help me cope and remain clean before my God.
02/23/18
Comments: Brothers and Sisters, I used to study many years ago, active in the ministry and was at the point of baptism and fell away due to circumstances that could have been avoided and I blamed the Elders for removing me from active service. My tale isn’t about that, though. Recently a friend started telling me that he wanted to read the bible and out of nowhere I offered my help by providing him with a copy. Unfortunately I couldn’t find my old service bible which I have always kept. In the end I directed him to JW.org and he’s happily reading the bible and asking questions now and then. My problem is, Jehovah is calling me back to the fold. I feel it and it’s tearing me inside out as I am in an active homosexual relationship. My heart keeps hurting and desiring to say to my partner that I can’t go on with our relationship as is, yet, I now this will deeply hurt him. Aside from acting immorally, he’s done nothing wrong except love the wrong person. I don’t know what to do and I’m not ready to begin praying. For years I harboured resentment towards Jehovah for his perceived failure. Any advise would be warmly welcomed. Yours tearfully, Harrison.
02/23/18
What is your email address Phil@witnesses.plus.com
Comments: Dear Dan, I replied to your email on 22 January 2018 at 15:58 GMT.
I will email you again.
02/11/18
Comments: Everyone- I have been unable to log into the forum since January 14. I tried reaching out to Phil twice by email, but have not received a response. Does anyone know what’s going on??
02/11/18
Comments: Can't log on
02/07/18
Comments: Hi everyone,
I'm really glad I found this site. I've been dealing with this problem since I was 13 and have never found anyone who truly understands what I'm going through. The elders know my situation and are very understanding, but it's good to know that there is a support group that I can turn to.
Hope everyone hangs in there and sticks to Jehovah as we all face this issue that is probably one of the hardest things anyone ever has to go through.
01/13/18
Comments: Hi Luka, (and everybody else!) I’m OK I guess. I’m trying to recover from binge eating disorder, and am really sick at the moment. (My whole family is actually) we caught some kind of nasty virus But I’m better today. Well, I STILL haven’t told anyone except you guys on here, (and probably never will) but I did get up the nerve to tell the sister I’m studying with about my tattoos. I really like that point you made about that being transgender doesn’t define us, because the world always makes it seem like it does. So I thought that was really interesting. . . Also, I’m glad to hear you’re doing OK.
01/10/18
Comments: It's nice to see that this resource exists. I look forward to a bit of discussion on the subject and I hope to be able to help others as I may be older than most on here. :-)
01/05/18
Comments: Hi Abigail Doing ok thanks. Coping as best we can with our issues, but have found recently that trying to distract myself via work/study/hobbies and of course focusing on the truth has been very beneficial with helping to dull the pain and worry being transgender can cause. Sometimes it helps to put things into perspective too- what really matters is those we love, helping and supporting them and remembering that our problems don’t define us, it’s just an issue we have and one that Jehovah promises to help us carry and eventually solve. How are you coping at the moment? Really hope Jehovah is looking after you and blessing your efforts! Much love, your friend xxx :-)
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